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“Our worth is inherent, we needn't strive or hustle for it. When we radically accept and embrace all of who we are, we ignite a catalyst for massive transformation. And we all want that.
Because everyone deserves a life they love.”
David D - Author, Life Coach, Speaker, Light Warrior
In 2015 I exited a marriage and relationship that I had kept myself stuck in for over a decade. After multiple accounts of infidelity and betrayal, I made the difficult decision to stop abandoning myself in service of someone else and put myself first. I spent that year trying to find a version of myself I no longer remembered. Over the years I had made myself smaller and smaller in order to please others and avoid rocking the boat. But now, on the precipice of a new chapter, I found myself alone and somewhat lost.
For over a year, I studied Integrative Health and in 2016 graduated from the Institute of Integrative Nutrition as a Health Coach. I had spent the majority of my childhood and adolescent years overweight, borderline obese depending on what you considered benchmarks for good health. As an adult, I chose to make food and lifestyle choices in support of losing and maintaining a healthy weight. Clinging to the numbers on the scale as a measure of my worth. The smaller the numbers and the smaller I made and contorted myself, the more worthy I’d be, and the more I would fit into other people’s lives. As I emerged as a new health coach and began supporting others on their health journeys, what I began to see was all the reasons we eat and neglect our bodies. I had spent a decade using food and exercise as a mode of punishment, trying to beat my body into submission, believing it was the reason for the turmoil in my marriage.
After a year of talking to people about their diets and lifestyle choices, I pivoted and got re-certified. I began digging deeper, into people’s deep-seated wounds and beliefs around their worthiness or lack thereof, so they could truly begin to heal. My journey into myself, and out into the world made me realize the number of boxes we place ourselves into in order to fit in and belong. The parts of ourselves we suppress and hide because we feel they cause us to be unworthy of love. The labels we wear in order to be relatable and accepted by others. This is extremely prominent in the LGBTQ+ community. And it has been my greatest pleasure to guide individuals within this/my community to shred the labels and dismantle the boxes they’ve placed themselves into in order to love and accept themselves wholeheartedly and unapologetically.
In the wake of my divorce, more and more clients started talking to me about betrayals and instances of infidelity they had experienced in their relationships. The same patterns would emerge, feeling like they were at fault or the ones to blame for their partner's betrayals. Feeling like they couldn’t help but obsess over the infidelity and like they were losing their minds. I realized through coaching them that, to this day, infidelity remains a taboo topic that no one really wants to talk about or admit to for fear of blame and shame. Through coaching and guiding clients through their heartbreaks, a new pattern emerged. One where I wasn’t solely concentrating my services on individuals who have been through instances of infidelity or toxic relationships, but one where I was guiding and supporting people who were suffering from any form of loss. Be it a loss of a partner or relationship, to the loss of a career, dream, or even identity.
We define ourselves so much by the lives we built for ourselves, the homes and possessions we acquire, the jobs and titles we hold, and the people and marriages we commit ourselves to. The loss of any of these pulls on, and if we’re not careful degrades our self-worth. Until the person in the mirror before us feels unrecognizable. I know because I’ve been there. Since the loss of my marriage in 2015 I’ve devoted my energy to helping people reclaim their self-worth and remember how to love themselves again.
In 2019 I published my first book, Awakening The Light Warrior Within; The journey out of the darkness and into the light, taking back your power and reclaiming your worth. In 2021 it won the Best Indie Book Award in the LGBTQ+ category. And while the book is centered around my journey through infidelity and divorce, I’ve had the honour of hearing from people from all walks of life with different experiences and stories who have experienced relief and healing from it. Because while the path to healing may not be linear, the guideposts along the way are often the same. We need to love ourselves in order to free ourselves.
On December 24th, 2019 I became a father. As a single man, I took in a 3-month-old baby boy from the foster system. I’ve spent the days and years following that life-changing moment helping my little warrior heal his trauma, calm his anxiety, and nurture his nervous system. And it’s my hope that in years to come, I’ll be able to support more children with trauma, as well as their parents.
In 2021 I became a licensed and certified facilitator in Danielle Laporte’s Heart Centered Leadership Program in order to provide additional support and practices to those I serve. Marrying heart centered practices with, meditation, EFT, and other modalities in order to provide those I coach with a wider menu of tools and practices to choose from for the deepest resonance and healing.
Now that you know a little more (or a lot more) about me, I’d love to know more about you and how I may support you on your journey through healing and wholehearted living.
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With love and gratitude,