Welcome back warriors, thanks for being here. ACIM talks about special relationships, how we separate ourselves from others when we make them special or idolize them. We also do this to ourselves. We make ourselves special in a number of different ways; relationship status, career status, material possession, even our talents and gifts. But today I wanted to talk about something different. Pain. More specifically, ask you, do you make your pain special?
When we identify someone as special or make something special we buy into our ego, our fear based mind which roots itself in the notion that we are all separate from each other. This is true when we make idols of ourselves, and believe ourselves to be special and therefore separate from others. But its also true when it comes to pain.When we make our pain special, we create more separation between ourselves and others. Click To Tweet
Making our pain special is one of the many ways we keep ourselves stuck in our negative stories, we remain the victims in our narratives. We do this because its comfortable, most of us have been carrying these negative stories for years, possibly even decades. But when we believe our pain to be special we further separate ourselves from one another. We find ourselves saying things like “you don’t know what its like,” or “you can’t imagine how it feels.” When we make our pain special, we create barriers, blocking connections with others. We’re hardwired for connection, but when we buy into the madness of the ego, believing that we are separate from each other, connecting with others becomes incredibly difficult.
I’m not implying we should disregard our pain or disown our negative stories. On the contrary, I believe there is something very powerful in owning our stories. Owning our story allows us to change the narrative, and release ourselves as the victim. When we are willing to sit with our pain, when we own our negative stories we can experience the deepest form of healing. They can be catalysts for growth and transformation.Owning our story allows us to change the narrative, and release ourselves as the victim. Click To Tweet
While making our pain special creates barriers, blocking connection with others, when we feel our way through it we dissolve these barriers. We open our hearts to more authentic connections with others.
Let me know if the comments below. How have you made your pain special? How have you idolized your negative stories and how have they prevented your from connecting with others?
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