Before I share today’s article there’s something I want to talk about as it relates to infidelity. I was always one of those people with extremely opinionated thoughts and beliefs around infidelity and what it meant for relationships. Perhaps you can relate. Have you ever sat there listening to a friend to talk about infidelity or perhaps the infidelity that he or she witnessed through friends or family members and thought to yourself; “she should dump him” or “she should pack his stuff and kick him out” or “she should leave and never look back”? I know that I’ve got both hands up right now.
My thoughts and opinions on infidelity were always very black and white. There wasn’t room for any gray and there certainly wasn’t any room to really try and understand or shed compassion for those who had violated the terms of their relationship, or for those who chose to stay. In fact, it wasn’t until I witnessed infidelity in my own life and my own relationships that I really had to take a hard look. When faced with the reality of infidelity, suddenly everything that I had been certain of, now left me paralyzed unable to move.
Have my opinions of infidelity changed? No, in the sense that it is still something that I consider to be intolerable in a relationship. If anything my boundaries are even firmer now regarding infidelity. But now I understand why those boundaries are there, what is sacrificed in the wake of indiscretions. Do I believe that it is possible to move beyond infidelity and rebuild a relationship? Yes, absolutely. But that doesn’t mean I’m inviting it through the front door. I know what moving through those experiences have taught me and that’s what I’m sharing in my new article on Best Self Media.
So if you’ve ever been in a position similar to me where you’ve had very rigid beliefs on infidelity and what it meant for the outcome of a relationship, I encourage you to read the article below. Perhaps it will help you shed a little bit of compassion to those who are currently suffering, and might even open up your own awareness or plant seeds if ever you are in the unfortunate situation where you have to face this yourself.
Click the link to read this week’s post on the Best Self Media.
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